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My name is Adam, born Adam ... (full name withheld) on 9-dd-yyyy, and I'm planning on getting married to the love of my life on 11-11-2011. Her name is Theresa ... (name withheld), but she goes by Reese, and was born 3-dd-yyyy. I'm incredibly curious what, if any, significance this date may play for us. But even more so, I would like to pick the right date to ask her to marry me. The question won't be a surprise but the date will, and being the romantic fool I am for her, I would like to have a reason for the date besides a holiday or birthday or something similarly trite. Is there a (or a choice of) dates that is best?
You picked an interesting day to tie the knot; 11-11-2011. I hope you didn't just select that particular date because the numbers rhyme. Sometimes that can be good, more often it isn't as it tends to cause what I call a "keyhole effect."
Think of all nine of the single digit numbers as representing a wide range of qualities and traits, basically covering the complete spectrum of potential attributes. By focusing on a date that contains only one or two numbers, you narrow the possible influences to a very small range of potentials. In the case of 11/11/2011 the focus is on extreme sensitivity, emotional imbalance, and relationship issues, generally not the kind you want to deal with on your wedding date.
Fortunately, this applies only to the Universal cycles as these numbers are based on a calendar date, not your personal numbers and cycles. (On a global level that specific date will undoubtedly bring some unexpected political disturbances and quite possibly diplomatic breakthroughs that make it into the history books.)
Without boring you and other readers with the mathematical mechanics, let me tell you that your personal numbers in order of importance for that day are 6, 8, and 1, and for Theresa 1, 3, and 6. And those numbers show that as a result of, I would guess, your gut-instinct, you actually picked a very good date for both of you. In Latin this would be called a contradictio in terminus - right then, a contradiction.
While the Universal cycles make this a less than ideal date for anything to do with relationships, Theresa's and your cycles are actually about as nicely aligned for a long-term relationship commitment as you could pick. And since the impact of your personal cycles far outweighs that of the universal cycles, I can full-heartedly support your choice of that particular date.
By the way, I also want to congratulate you on your choice of life partner. Your charts fit nicely; she is both smarter and stronger than you are, while you have the loyalty of a Labrador combined with the empathy and understanding of a gifted shrink. In addition, you are both flexible and able to compromise. A word of advice though, while Theresa can be changeable and unpredictable, she craves stability. And while she is strong-willed and may insist on wearing the pants, you better put up a bit of a struggle and express your own authority as she does not appreciate an easy triumph.
I have calculated my personal year number for this year and it is number 7. I am currently not doing anything because so many events came up which stopped me from doing anything new like entering a new college and getting a new job, etc. I left college in 2008, and this year I have learned so much about myself, people and life, and I know without this time of not doing much, I wouldn't have learned this much. I think without that time I would have remained depressed and unhappy. I now know what I want in life and what I would like to experience. However, I am at a bit of dilemma. I might be going back to college in September but I hate it -- that is one of the reasons why I left. I am only doing it because it seems like the only productive thing I should to do. It is the safest thing which is presenting itself to me I guess.
Could you help me please?
Sindiso, the 7 Personal Year cycle is indeed a time of introspection, self examination, and the search for clarity in your personal life on all levels. However, based on your comments, it seems you have been in that state of mind since well before you started your 7 cycle. So I looked at other cycles in your numerology chart that have been in place for the last couple of years (several cycles, like Essence and Transit cycles, affect us at any given time), and noted that you dropped out of college during a 22 Essence cycle and a 5 Personal Year cycle, and that you have been in a 7 Emotional Transit cycle since late 2008. That explains a lot.
The combination of a 22 and a 5 is difficult as those numbers are discordant; the 22 causing a kind of pressure-cooker effect with excessive ambition and a disconnect with reality, and the 5 taking your focus all over the place, never directing it at one goal long enough to actually make something happen.
A 22 cycle supported by certain other numbers can be great and a boost to your career, but joining it with the dynamic, restless 5 is not ideal. Add to that a 7 Emotional Transit and it is no wonder you have felt without direction, low on stamina, and too much self-consciousness - meaning too centered on your inner turmoil and doubts, which all by itself can consume the lion share of your energy.
You are now entering a transition period from a 7 to an 8 Personal Year cycle (you were born early in the year so your cycle's gradual transformation starts around September/October), and entering a 7 Essence. In a way, the tables are in the process of being turned; the cycles will start pushing you towards getting down to business, to applying yourself and to be goal-oriented and practical. No more beating around the bush, doubting and questioning yourself and the world around you. While at the same time, you find some clarity and insight that will help you make peace with yourself. But reaching that will not be quick and easy.
The trouble is, that the second part of 2010 sees you with what we call a 7 duality; still in the tail end of a 7 Personal Year cycle while at the same time entering a 7 Essence cycle. Finding direction and moving towards your goals will still be difficult for the rest of the year but late this year and early next year will feel like you have been released and like a rubber band that has been stretched for awhile, the energy liberated once the rubber band is let go, is considerable and will eventually make up for the time you spent wondering and questioning and not getting much done.
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